In fact, about the only substantial thing to change since I wrote this article is that Sidney Crosby had to have major dental reconstruction after taking a slapshot to the jaw.  (Who knows?  Maybe my writing has “Supernatural” powers?!) Let me know what you think!


Auld Lang Syne Selection


The Winchester brothers have experienced more trauma, and more grief (and most likely more concussions!) than any other two souls on earth (or in heaven, hell or purgatory for that matter!) and they deal, or don’t deal, with the lasting impact of those horrific experiences in different ways.  Both brothers have low self-esteem, and fail to appreciate their own worth to the other, and to the world.  They also suffer overwhelmingly from the shame of the occasional (plot-driven) bad decision and the guilt of the way those choices affect their world, an everyone else’s.  Over the years, both Dean, and Sam have tried, in halting steps and with limited success, to start integrating and understanding the effect of all those experiences. But it seems to me Dean’s preferred method has always been, and now 11 seasons later continues to be, in the words of Scarlett O’Hara “I’ll think about that tomorrow”.  What do you think?


THE LIMITS OF THE LEAD FRIGGIN' MARBLE BOX 
Originally Published: October 12, 2011

"I keep my marbles in a lead friggin' box" - Dean Winchester

THEN:

A small boy crouches on the floor.  His blonde hair and freckles sparkle in the afternoon sunshine, as do the marbles he's surrounded by.  His green eyes squint in concentration as he rolls them in his hands, and shoots them across the floor. He's playing with all of them, but seems especially attracted to four in particular:

 -  An alley, streaked with many colours

 -  A perfectly smooth, pale blue orb

 -  One that looks like a droplet of blood, frozen in time 

 -  A perfect Cat's Eye aggie
 

NOW: 

Dean Winchester is all grown up.  He doesn't play with marbles any more.  But he still thinks about them.  He confessed to Bobby that nowadays he keeps all his marbles in a "lead friggin' box."  Of course, when he says marbles he means all his feelings about everything - his life, his time in Hell, and the price he's paid to be a Winchester, a Hunter and a saviour of the world.  

It all started as a small box, for a very little boy.  It was just big enough to contain Dean's grief over his mother's death, and the knowledge his childhood, and his innocence, were over.  He had a little brother Sammy to protect, and Big Daddy Winchester to please.  There was no time for tears, or tantrums, or thinking about how he, DEAN, felt about something.  So whenever he was sad, or hurt, confused or bewildered, he would take that swirl of emotion, pretend it was a brightly coloured marble and carefully tuck it away in the small box, with the nice, sturdy lock.

Sometimes he would lift the lid, and look at his ever-expanding collection.  But examining those feelings takes time.  It's painful.  It can leave you gasping for air, in need of forests of Kleenex and legions of hugs.  It must be exceptionally hard to do while trying to hold a family together, raise a brother, fight monsters, and grow up. 

As Dean got older, he would occasionally sit down with a piece of pie, take out a little pencil, and do some scribbling on a napkin.  He'd run some numbers, and calculate just how much larger he needed to make the box.  There were getting to be so many marbles to put inside it.  

There was the way his Dad looked at him differently, after he let the Shtriga almost kill Sam, and then escape. There were the denied dreams of a different life.  Once, he wanted to be a firefighter, but resigned himself to the fact the Family Business came first.  There was the anguish of watching Sam leave for Stanford. And the despair when he woke to discover his Dad had left him too.              

 

The box started to bulge at the sides. But Dean's always been clever and good with his hands.  He saw the problem, and devised a solution.  Build a bigger box!  Make it like an old steamer trunk. Add drawers, and shelves and secret compartments.  Dean was proud of himself.  He was positive he'd created enough storage to last his lifetime.

But Dean never imagined that, in his lifetime, he would see his father sell his soul to save his eldest son.  Or that Sam would be killed.  Or that Dean would sell his own soul to bring Sam back to life.  Or that he'd go to Hell, be tortured and then become the torturer.  Or that an Angel of the Lord, named Castiel, would raise him from Perdition because God had work for him.  Or that, between them, Sam and Dean would inadvertently trigger the Apocalypse, and be identified as the vessels for the Archangel Michael, and the Devil Lucifer.



Although he'd never admit it, Dean has a vivid imagination, especially when it pertains to Busty Asian Beauties!  However, even in his wildest nightmares he couldn't predict that the brotherly bond he and Sam share would avert the Apocalypse, but cost   Sam so much.  Or that affection, good intentions and pride would lead his angelic best friend to make all the same mistakes as the Winchesters.  

Dean couldn't know that having a chance at normal with Lisa and Ben would make everything in his Hunter Life seem so much more abnormal.  Or that he was fated to lose the twin sanctuaries of hope he'd found in their home, and at Bobby's book-cluttered farmhouse. And he never let himself think he would see Sam's wall come crashing down, and Castiel's empty trench coat come floating up.  

 

All the while, the marbles kept getting thrown in the box.  Sure, over the past few years, Dean's noticed all the strain on the hinges, how they're threatening to blow apart any second.  And he's well aware that keeping the lock secure requires all of his bodyweight, plus lots of alcohol.  But still, Dean keeps telling himself "the box is big enough."   

To be fair, it's not like he's had a lot of time to design, let alone build a new one.  He hasn't even had time to sort through the contents of the box, and see if there were any he wants to get rid of.  He tried a few times, especially before his trip to the Pit, and after his return from Hell.  But he was told he wasn't strong enough to do the purging.   

So he just kept shoving the marbles inside the box, promising to get rid of a few "someday."  But he always carries around three of his childhood favourites. In fact, now they even have nicknames.

The streaked alley is The Guilty Guy. "I let down the people I love.  That's what I do."

The pale blue one is The Loser.  "It doesn't take a genius to figure it out..."  "If there is a God out there, why would He give a crap about me?"  "I've been trying to save this planet, so maybe you should find somebody better to tip off."

 

And of course, the beautiful blood-red aggie is called The Killer.  "But what I'm good at is slicing throats. I ain't a father. I'm a killer. And there's no changing that. I know that now."

 

Everyday, those marbles rattle and clang in Dean's pocket.  Now and then Bobby can hear the noise they're making, but Dean just talks louder and the sound disappears.  In the past, Sam has been almost deafened when the marbles smash into each other. He's offered to help.  But right now, he can't because he's hearing strange voices himself.

The problem with the marbles is that their constant clacking sometimes clouds Dean's view of himself, and his judgement.  They act kind of like Horcruxes.  He starts believing those three stones are the only ones in the collection that matter.  

"People. They are who they are. No matter how hard you try, you are what you are. And you will kill again. Trust me, I'm an expert. Maybe in a year, maybe 10, but eventually the other shoe will drop. It always does."



Sometimes Dean wishes a Monster would just hurry up and kill him already, and then he'd never have to worry about the damn marble collection again!  Maybe sometimes, he even tries to put himself in harm's way, just to make that happen sooner.

The tragedy for Dean is that he rarely looks at the brilliant, gleaming Cat's Eye aggie.  Perhaps it's because this marble makes him think of bright and shiny things - courage, compassion, loyalty, laughter and love.



The Cat's Eye is the prize of the collection, the gem of the bunch.  But Dean doesn't think he deserves it anymore.  Sometimes, he'll misplace it or try to lose it. Luckily, Sam is usually really good at keeping track of it.

Sam jokingly calls it The Eye of the Tiger.  He knows Dean has always admired tigers, especially painted on velvet or the side of a van!  The Cat's Eye has always been Sam's favourite.  In fact, he's using it right now.  When he rubs the scar on his hand to bring himself back to reality and away from his visions of Hell, he's thinking of Dean and the Cat's Eye.  

If only his brother could do the same.  The time has come for Dean to accept that "lead friggin' boxes" don't hold marbles very well. And that he really needs to take out that Cat's Eye, give it a polish and carry it with pride. 

Comments  

Brr
# Brr 2016-01-07 17:14
This is really beautiful! I remember thinking when Dean mentioned his lead lined box, "what happens when the box lid cracks and the marbles start spilling out?" I think his downward spiral in s 7 started to answer that question, Purgatory temporarily patched that hole, and the mark completed the trajectory. I love how you used the marble metaphor to highlight these aspects of Dean's psyche! (I am also a middle aged mom who loves the Winchesters, btw).
Jen
# Jen 2016-01-08 04:23
I am a middle age lady also Who Loves the Winchesters and Damn proud of it :p:p:p
Your article was priceless. I always found Dean a very complex character but found it difficult to put it all together. Your very simple but complex idea of using marbles was brillant
I can see Dean more clearly now I believe we have seen alot of those marbles come tumbling out between S7 - S10 I think its time now to pick up "The eye of the tiger" and move forward
I would love it if you could do a similar analagy for Sam Every time I think I have him worked out he confuses me again. Is Sam more complex than Dean ???? Do you think Pragmatic Dreamer
disgruntled viewer
# disgruntled viewer 2016-01-08 12:58
[code type="xml"]I would love it if you could do a similar analagy for Sam Every time I think I have him worked out he confuses me again
Take him as the classical hero of the story. At first he was introduced as a reluctant hero, then he reconciled with his role and accepted it. But the storytelling is not from his point of view, and not even about him, that's why a large number of viewers fail to see it. People tend to look at the story form the narrator's perspective, which, if he is a participant of the story, is always biased.
MTgin
# MTgin 2016-01-08 22:32
I, too, am a middle-aged (at the HIGH end of that cohort!)married woman, and have two sons the exact same age as "our boys"....you have done a wonderful job in describing how Dean continues to bury the pain he feels. I had some notion that I could write a fan fic from Mary's point of view about her boys...but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I wish their was a mother figure for them...Ellen may have been, but, alas, that was not to be. Jody Mills is too close to their own age. I wonder....with the variety of women writing for the series, why this aspect has not been broached...perh aps, our heroes must continue to carry their respective weights in order for the story to stay true to its roots. Whatever happens, I am appreciative of the insights shared among the SPN Family.